McGlovin(tm) asked:


Ladies: How do I break out of my dating funk and skepticism?(SERIOUS answers only)?

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My senior year of college, I got friendly with and ended up losing my virginity to a woman I knew for about 2 years. Her and I had become friends that fall prior and started to hang out and be real platonic. It came out that she had had a crush on me since she first me met me. Now I deem my self the average guy, having hits and misses in the dating department in college. I was a late bloomer, my first kiss and gf not until I was 19, and then I met other women and played the field quite a bit and briefly dated a few other girls, until I met her.

Several weeks into us dating or whatever you’d like I call it, she invited me and two of her friends up to her parents’ cottage for New Years. A lot of the time, I felt kind of left out, but she paid attention to me when it was just her and I. I had kind of known one of her friends, and we all talked alot, but she ended up telling a female friend of mine that I acted very out of character at a restaurant we went to, swearing up a st

Dec 29, 2007 at 8:34 am
storm in public and causing her to be embarrassed. The god honest truth was that i was eating my meal, bored and silent because every time I tried to talk to her and her friends I felt left out still. Plus, the male friend of hers was flirting with her the whole weekend and paid for my meal! When I offered and he turned it down! I was like ‘what is going on here’? So finally, in the car after she was like “No, nothing’s wrong” She was extremely silent like something happened to her. And she was quiet. This REALLY concerned me because the night before I had developed more feelings for her that I wanted her to be my girlfriend. She ended up telling a close female friend of mine that I acted “very out of character”, didn’t offer money to pay for things (All NOT true), and didn’t help clean up (when I cleaned up lots). She also told her very personal things about my performance (that I will not share,

Dec 29, 2007 at 8:39 am
No guy would want to share it, when this same girl, to my face, told me it was ok. And that when she told me she just wanted to be friends that New Year’s Day it was “ok” and understandable because she just wanted to go back to being friends. After we hooked up NewYear’s night?

Look, im not an innocent victim. My close female friend I mentioned, her and I had feelings for each other, but weren’t together during my “fling” with the girl who bothered me. She ended up telling people that I ignored her pleas for help with her asthma and just “ate pudding” when the truth was I never knew she was asthmatic and she told me she was allergic to a pillow and I had stayed up with her and gave her water and took care of her.
She ended up telling her friends and people around campus that I had called her a whore and stuff when I never talked **** about her to her friends, and I felt that my rep at college was sort of ruined. I had known lots of people. but never felt the same.

Dec 29, 2007 at 8:41 am
Any rate, the four years after finishing school ALL my dates haven’t gone past the first. I’ve tried online and meeting in person and nothing has worked. I haven’t had anything resembling anything since and Im flustered. I still have “problems” with that area of my anatomy.
Im currently in therapy for this and while I realize and respect the fact that women have been through loads worse with men and still carry on better than I have, I am not going to make excuses or apologize for my stance on this. The whole ordeal has left me kind of traumatized, there’s not a day I don’t think about it in 4 years, and im 27 now.

I want to break free and move on, but I feel I can’t. I feel like ALL women are like that. On my dates I am nice, polite, personable and not overly flirty. Just “right” flirty. I never get returned calls. I feel much better having got this off my chest, but I felt this girl ruined my life.
I haven’t been with another girl sexually since.
How do I break out of my shel

Richard

Jeff L asked:


I have known her for about 1 1/2 years now. I would sometimes talk with her at lunch when I was a senior in high school and she was a sophmore. She was, at the time, dating another guy in my grade but now she’s single and she’s now a senior.

She seemed interested in me as well, back in high school and more recently on facebook but despite the fact that shes 2 or 3 years younger she has more experience dating and stuff. I’ve never had a gf or even been on a real date (not counting prom which sucked) and this makes it more awkward for me.

Basically, I asked her how her summer was and she told me she was just hanging out with friends and stuff and she asked me about my summer. I want to say something interesting that won’t kill the conversation but to be honest this doesn’t come naturally for me (for years I was pretty much a loner).

So does anyone have any ideas of what I could say and how I could, eventually, tell her that I might be interested in going to the movies or something?

Cole

penguin_marshmallow asked:


I’m 17, senior in high school and the clicka are set. all my guy friends see me as a friend or already have gf’s. i’m wooried about not having a date for prom or the senior formals… so i wnated to try online dating.. problem.
1) i’m a little embarressed…
2)don’t know what sites are good (and free)
3) is it safe??
anyone else have good (or bad) luck w/these type of sites??
thanx up front!

Mackenzie

Exotic wonder asked:


so there is a guy at my school- i’m a senior in college!
i sent him a message on a dating site part of facebook.
the message read “hi, how are things? we share similar interests in music, politics, and religion…maybe one day we can talk or hang out!”
i’ve noticed this guy like…
1. stares then looks away
2. makes eye contact
3. looks me up and down- especially like what i’m wearing, my lady lumps (boobs, butt, thighs, legs, etc.)
4. listens carefully when i talk in class
5. watches me move when i am walking places
6. looks at my facebook page and reads it
7. looks at different parts of me when he sees me- then looks away, puts his head down, and smiles…
like from the body language i would think he thinks i’m cute- but i’m not sure- what he overall thinks about me- so since i don’t see him around campus- i tried through the dating site!

Maria

karen c asked:


Is there a way to make a poll online for people to take on thier motivation for using Online Dating?

I’m in college, and this is a senior project–I know a lot of people on Yahoo Personals, and I wanted to use tat a s medium to find people to poll.

Evan

barbara e asked:


am a 77 old woman of color, I subcribe to several senior dating. I have been very up front about my condition as a stroke susvivor . Things go very well even after my explantion about my health challenges there seems a mutual interest. but suddenly, theseveral week;’ suddenly there is a proplem ; I don’t think you are the person that is right for me, etc. I have tried to anlalze
the reasons. maybe my messages may be boring. I hesitate of encouring any disrespect or being to bold. Is it possible i’m too boring and my conversation is not interesting. I guess it is time for to face up the disable should not to date online

Chloe

Jim M asked:


I’m looking for a good affiiate program or referral program that pays you to promote senior citizen dating sites.

Arrianne

Fred Vinson asked:


Have you tried a site like this:
http://www.seniorocity.com/groups_browse.php?categID=24&nf=1

I’m curious if you’ve had any more luck with an online community like seniorocity (where there are people with various interests, ie, a community about more than just about dating). Or have you gone with a traditional online dating site?

Carmita